The VLOG

CUT TIES WITH TOXIC PEOPLE

Today, we’re going to talk about toxic people.  They come with many titles:  family members, so-called friends, colleagues.  Their sole function is to use their negativity to bring you down.  It’s their way of building themselves up and keeping you down, where they feel you belong.  I’ve seen it.  It happens.  So how do you handle the toxic people?  Cut them loose.  Sever all ties.  Negativity breeds negativity.  It’s a cancer that spreads.  Don’t expect the toxic people to change.  Most of them do not.  It’s YOU who has to bring about the change in your own life, by saying “enough is enough” and not allowing that person to influence you any longer.  Don’t waste any more time.  Get to it!  My mom used to tell me you have to get the wrong people out of your life before the right ones will come in.  I found this to be 100% true.  What are you waiting for?  Purge the toxins and welcome influencers into your life who are actually going to help you step up your game.

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WHY IT’S OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP

Hi … it’s Bridget here.
Will you help me with something?
Will you click on the like or share button please?

I’m not afraid to ask you for your help when I need it. But that wasn’t always the case. Years ago, I used to see it as a sign of weakness. Or I thought maybe people would see me as deficient in some way because I couldn’t do it all myself. I also had a case of “I will do it all myself because I know it’ll be done right” syndrome.

There are several flaws in that way of thinking. First it’s not a weakness or an admission of some sort of deficiency to ask for assistance. In fact, it’s a show of strength and good judgment to know when you can really use someone else’s expertise to ensure a project or task is carried out in the best way possible.

Second when I was taking on everything because I didn’t want to ask for help, other things I was supposed to be doing would suffer. Finally, I wasn’t helping build trust … my trust in others and theirs in me.

Try it. Ask for help and watch the people around you rise to the occasion and your trust in them go through the roof.

Oh and don’t forget I need your help with those likes and shares!

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BEING HUMBLE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS BEING CONFIDENT

Hi everybody!
Bridget here!
Just stopping in for another video to hopefully help you along this journey we call life.  Today, I want to talk to you about being humble. Yes, I know I am the one always telling you to believe in yourself, and letting you know that you can do anything if you set your mind to it. But that’s confidence. That’s not arrogance. There’s a difference.  You can believe in your skills but be humble enough to know when you need someone else’s help or tutelage. It’s how you learn even more. It’s how you fine tune your skills. It’s how you become a powerhouse, and it’s also how you endear yourself to others who have no choice but to think … wow, she’s sharp, she’s self-aware, and she’s humble and down to earth. They’ll go out of their way to help you succeed!

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THREE WORDS YOU NEED TO HEAR

Hi friends!

It’s Bridget back here with you.
I have a very important topic to discuss with you today. In fact, it’s so important, I have written about it three times. Are you listening? These next three words are super important: believe in yourself!

The world is a hard place to be at times. If you’re a positive person, you likely believe everyone wants you to succeed. Unfortunately, that’s not true. There will be people who will try to get into your head and convince you that you’re not worthy of so many things. They’ll doubt your abilities and skills, and if you don’t believe in yourself, you just might fall for their nonsense!

If you haven’t told yourself this yet … I want you to do something for me … once this video is over, look at yourself in the mirror and say these words: “I believe in myself, and I can achieve anything!” If you don’t believe it at first … don’t stop saying it until you do! That’s your homework! I mean it …. and go!

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OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS

Good morning, everyone.  It is dark and early on a Monday morning.  I’ll show you just how early.  Take a look at this.  I am up, and I am ready to start the day.  I am at work already—getting ready to do a major project that I have been working on for the better part of a month.  Last week, I talked a lot about being ready to get up early and working hard to accomplish your dreams, and this demonstrates that.  It also demonstrates one other thing that I tell colleges and students that I go to speak to at those colleges and universities that opportunity doesn’t just knock between the hours of 9 to 5.  Opportunity knocks sometimes at 3:30 in the morning or 9 o’clock at night, sometimes it’s on the weekend.  Whenever opportunity does not, you have to be ready to answer that call.  Wish me luck on this project.

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TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE

Hi everyone.  I just arrived at work, and I wanted to stop for a quick moment and give you a piece of life and professional advice.  So that advice is:  don’t let anyone write your story for you.  You write your own narrative.  What I mean by that is this.  People have their own advice, and they have their own expectations of what you should be in life, what you should do in life, who you should love.  Some of them have your best interests in mind.  Some of them do not.  Let’s say for instance, a parent who says, “Hey, I don’t want you to study abroad.  I’m scared for you.  I’m worried about the trip.  I’m worried about you being able to be successful over there.”  Or “Hey, I don’t want you to take that job or career because maybe it’s not stable.”  They have your best interests at heart.  There are the others though who just want to tear you down.  “Hey, you’re not good enough for that position, or you’re not smart enough, or you’re not qualified for that.”  What I need you to do is write your own narrative.  Write your own story.  How do you do that?  Well, you do that in three steps.  First, set goals for yourself.  Second, write down a clear plan and a clear path to achieve those goals, and third, GET TO WORK!  It’s hard work writing your own narrative and making sure that it comes to fruition and that book is what you want it to be.  But at the end of the day on the last chapter, you can look back on all of the previous chapters and say, “Wow!  That was a great story!  That was a great book, and there’s not a single chapter in it on regret.  So, write your own narrative.